If you read my piece, ‘coming out as an ex-porn addict’ on The Atlantic, and have a reaction, thought, or question, please click on “Ask” above and I’ll try to respond and post the questions and replies on this blog. You can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, but I’d love to make this conversation public—I’ve gotten some amazing emails that have changed my thinking and trajectory of my recovery, and I wish others could have seen them as well. Let’s talk together.
Check out the conversation on Reddit/NoFap
talked about by female bodied folks.
Thank you to Gary, Marnia, Jim, Wendy, and Marty for all your help on “Was I ‘addicted’ to Internet porn?”
Each was essential to its happening. I hope the piece is useful to folks. Please respond or ask me things.
It’s easy to be considered a misandrist when men are socialized to feel entitled to women and our time. So, if you ignore them, you’re a misandrist. If you insist they leave you alone, you’re a misandrist. If you focus on building healthy female-centered relationships over relationships with men, you’re a misandrist. Misandry is basically, prioritizing your agency, autonomy and fellow women, over men in a society that teaches you that being feminine relies on giving into men’s feelings of entitlement.
—I think what’s worth thinking about is whether or not spaces in which folks are attempting to perform radically different gender relations are working towards altogether different configurations of power, or simply an inversion of power dynamics. What does a “healthy” female-centered relationship mean? It exists I’m sure, but so do heterosexual relationships in which women reconstitue patriarchal relations towards men.
(Source: , via sexxxisbeautiful)